In my experience observing the natural unfolding of change in my own life and the lives of the women I coach, I believe there are 4 key cycles of energy that we move through at any given time, depending on what is influencing us. And that whichever cycle we are in determines the kind of change or routine or practices we’ll need in order to help enhance our ability to take care of ourselves for that cycle.

The online space is always crowded with everyone’s best intentions at the start of the year. And this year, more than before, I’m noticing how the idea of “That” self-care routine has become super popularising.

We see gorgeous girls, drinking their fabulous green juice, in their perfect monochromatic workout sets, and perfectly minimalist apartments, going to the gym and taking walks. Now, I’m not hating on this. In fact, some days, I am doing some of those things too…

And this is exactly why I’m talking about it…

I feel like we’re making each other wrong for having a self-care ritual that looks different from our own. And in the process, making ourselves wrong for the routines we have.